Don't you hate it when you're near people who are always complaining? Let me first clarify the difference between commenting on something and complaining about something. An example of commenting on something could be, "I'm having a really hard time with my math class. It's pretty difficult" whereas an example of complaining about something could be, "I hate my math class! It's so impossible and the professor sucks!" If you don't see the difference between these two situations then you are probably more understanding than I am, but I consider myself to usually be a relatively understanding person so try to bear with me. For those of you who use social networking sites such as Facebook or Twitter, this complainer is also the person who posts, "OMFG! 2 tests tmrw FML" or something along those lines as his status. He's also the person in class who goes, "ah this is the worst class ever! I hate it so much" and other variations of that. One of the things I hate about these whiners is the generalizations they make. Before you declare, "this is the worst class ever" you should probably stop and think if it truly is the WORST CLASS EVER. I mean, worst class ever? I don't think I'd ever feel comfortable making that statement because I've not experienced every class ever. Likewise, they frequently use the word hate. Hate is a really extreme word that I think many people in our society overuse on a daily basis. When I imagine hatred I think of intolerable loathing. The experience the complainer is involved with is obviously tolerable or else he still wouldn't be participating in it. Another one of the things that bothers me so much about these individuals is just the fact that they are complaining. Part of me feels like they complain either because they're desperately seeking attention or they love to hear themselves speak. Some people are just miserable and look for things to complain about. I don't really get it. But the number one reason why I hate the constant complainer is because they have the power to change their current situation, but instead of changing it, they choose to complain about it. No one FORCES you to go to college. No one FORCES you to take that difficult Biology class. No one FORCES you to do anything, so either suck it up or change your life. My attitude is that if something you can control bothers you so much that you must complain about it, then just change it. I understand that in high school it was so awesome to hate school and type things like "Mr. Smith is a turd ROFLMAO" and "Mrs. Jones looks like a man LOLZ" but you're an adult now and you chose to do what you're doing. With that in mind, the constant complainer doesn't always have to pertain to a college atmosphere. For example, it could be one of your co-workers who perpetually complains about his wage or the boss' incompetence, but fails to do anything about it. If you deserve to be paid that much more or are that much more intelligent than the boss, then get a raise or get a promotion. That's basically it. The more people stand around and complain the more negativity that radiates throughout the world. My attitude is that if you're complaining about something that could be seen as positive then consider yourself lucky. There are many people in the world who have more legitimate reasons to complain, so try to put your situation into perspective. Next time you're around one of these constant complainers, try turning their situation into something positive or suggesting they view it differently and if you make a convincing enough case they'll probably stop dead in their complaining tracks.
With that being said I'd like to thank my friend Luke for the idea behind this entry. It's something we've discussed before and he recently reminded of it in light of my assignment. Thanks Luke.
Until next time,
Zac
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One time in my WWII history class a lawn mower passed by the class window, the girl next to me remarked "Wow, really RMU? Do they really have to cut the grass right now?" It was one in the afternoon. If there was ever a time to cut grass that was it.
ReplyDeleteThis same person has also been seen on facebook with such statuses as "Class til 3 FML!" and most recently (this is somewhat paraphrased) "Wow is RMU a school of business or what? Way to offer only two intermediate accounting classes and only two of every other class I need".
Despite not talking to this girl since Sophomore year (and never talking to her in my WWII class) I was extremely tempted to ask her what would meet her expectations. She is a prime example of someone who feels the need to complain anytime the opportunity presents itself.
Great blog though. This is really spectacular work. Someone would be wise to sign you up.
I HATE the constant complainer! The thing that urks me the most is that these individuals think that they are affected more so than others by a given condition or circumstance. For example, when it is raining outside the constant complainer thinks that somehow the rain falling on them is colder, more wet and altogether more miserable than the rain falling on the next guy. When finals week rolls around, the constant complainer will always have the worst schedule, the most material to review and expect your sympathy. Luke, your constant complainer colleague sounds like a real piece of work. You have my sympathy, buddy.
ReplyDeleteYeah you could probably write a blog about that girl alone.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why some people, as Meg mentioned, feel their day is so much worse than anyone elses. If one does feel their day is THAT much worse, they should change it. If you "hate 8AM class, so tired, FML". Then go to bed earlier. Be responsible. It's your fault you're tired. When do you plan on waking up when you have an actual job?
Life is about perspective, and clearly, these "complainers" are too self-centered to recognize REAL problems such as a fatal illness or a handicap. On October 12 I posted a facebook status that read: "don't use facebook as an instrument to complain; no one cares." 11 people "liked" it, and I was showered with comments. This is a great example of what I, and obviously many others, hate.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great entry. I'd also like to comment on a related phenomenon in youth sports. Many parents feel their children should be more "privileged" than other children on a particular team, and as a result, always complain to other parents and the coaches about their kid's playing time. If your kid wants more playing time, tell him to get better.
ReplyDeleteI really agree with this. There is this girl in my class who wines and complains about EVERYTHING. It is so annoying and she sits in the back so everybody heres her. She complained the other day about having 2 tests on the same day, and having to do homework. I snapped on her and told her to stfu cause I had 4 tests that day. She continued to argue about how much her life sucks. So annoying, not to mention she is short and fat which doesn't help her situation much
ReplyDeleteThis is by far the best entry and most relevant to everyday life. It bothers me when working someone takes their time to get their coupons and other savings items out until they get to the register. Then whenever the day comes and you do something like that in line, the person behind you is always huffing and puffing. When given the chance I am sure that they would have done the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI find these all to be fantastic thoughts, Zac. Most hard hitting for me is the observation of the over-usage of the word "hate" in our society. You're absolutely right, hate is a very powerful word, and its ubiquity throughout most people's vocabulary only shows the sad dumbing down of the expression of one's true opinions. I very much dislike anyone who uses hate in an everyday context, but I certainly do hate those people who are clogging our lives with unnecessary chatter about what they don't like about theirs.
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